A Whole New World!

 A Whole New World!

So as I type, it has been 37 months of a sexless life.  I decided to change that with the new year.  I made the decision with my wife that I would get a penile implant.

Surgery

As I prepared for the surgery, I did a lot of research including some YouTube videos.  If you are considering this, please don't look at them.  The surgery in the videos is gruesome to someone not in the medical field.  To the doctors, it is completely normal.  I still was not deterred.  What are my options?  Stay completely soft for ever OR have the ability to get hard and stay hard for as long as I want!  That was the outcome I was looking for.

Of course, as a guy, the size and measurements were important, but again what are the options?  With the cancer removal there is a loss.  Then with an implant there MAY be a loss.  For me, there was a loss on both surgeries. But I can now get hard without drugs!!  To me that is the best feeling in the world.

The surgery was rough.  There was much more pain than the prostatectomy.  The good news is that it only lasted a few days.  By the time I came home from the overnight stay in the hospital, it was only Tylenol.  That is the best part.  The downside was/is the risk of infection.  Just like a knee replacement, an infection of the implant means it must come out and flush your entire body with heavy duty antibiotics.  I have never been more aware of infection risks until this!  After all, this is a very important appendage.  

Recovery

As much pain as there was, I was able to get back on my feet running after a week.  There was still pain because I now have a bunch of new stuff stuffed into a small space.  My wife was the one that kept me from anything risky to reduce the potential for infection.  The surgical sites were astounding.  I had black and blue marks everywhere!  I wound up returning to the doctor weekly to check the incision sites as the wound healed.  I did have heavy drainage for about 5 weeks and then it just stopped.  Now at week six, I am able to pump it up.  


It's like a kid at Christmas now.  Pump it up just to see it.  Then deflate.  I am overjoyed after 3 years and 1 month.  Now to try it out again if i can remember how.

EDIT 4/15/24

Well it is TAX Day for all, but I don't care.  Two weeks into using my new toy and it is the greatest thing anyone can do after prostate cancer or general long term ED.  Both of the past weekends have been incredible.  Since we have not done anything for the past 3 years since my diagnosis, the feelings of being close and sharing the intimacy of a full sexual encounter are out of this world!  The surgery is meant to boost my self esteem by looking and performing more normally as an adult male, but I soon learned that is indeed for both of us.  In the throws of passion, she admitted that she never thought she would ever feel this again and it is the best thing I could have done.  She wanted to thank the doctor for doing such a good job.  This melted my heart.  Not only did it confirm one of my fears since having the PC surgery (that we would not have sex again the same and she would miss it and possibly wander), but that I am worthwhile again and seen as a sexual being in my wife's eyes.  This admission brought me closer to her again.  It feels like we can return to what we had prior to prostate cancer.  Many of my fantasies started to look like they would be possible.  I do have to say, it was the most positive outcome to the entire 3 year prostate cancer roller coaster.  If faced with the option, GO FOR IT!!!

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